We can NEVER forget the day when a beautiful soul was taken from this world at the hands of murderers who supposedly are here to protect. His name was George Floyd. How many times are we going to lose a member of our community at the hands of a police officer? We can never forget our saving grace, Darnella Frazier, who was only 17 when she captured George Floyd’s final cries for help on camera. This was very significant as this footage was used as evidence for Floyd’s trial against Chauvin.
Frazier said the following:
“I didn’t know this man from a can of paint, but I knew his life mattered. I knew that he was in pain. I knew that he was another Black man in danger with no power.”
We need to have the conversation about how Black women have this urgent sense of responsibility when it comes to police brutality against Black men. How can you blame us? For any of us who have never experienced it firsthand, imagine watching our friends, brothers, fathers, husbands, and uncles, being brutally abused and murdered right before our eyes and all we can do is stand there? Let’s also not forget our Black sisters being murdered at the reckless hands of police officers: BREONNA TAYLOR. It is not like we can just step in either because we will also get brutally abused. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain and the trauma brought after being a bystander.
The sleepless nights, the anxiety, and the depression come in full swing. On top of that, it is difficult to heal from an experience when that experience keeps happening over and over again. It creates more and more blows to the body, causing a constant fight or flight mode majority of your day, every day. As a person who suffers from anxiety, fight or flight mode is the most uncomfortable feeling throughout the body. Black women may even have no reaction at all, often becoming completely paralyzed, which is NORMAL as it is the Freeze trauma response. So, the fact that Black women carry that every day is alarming. Imagine the constant paranoia and fear of seeing a police car and walking past a police officer? Imagine not being able to move after having the slightest glance of a police badge or hearing a siren? Again, can you blame them?
The more Black women witness, watch videos and hear about police brutality the more fear they will have leaving their home. Their sense of safety is vulnerable, they feel vulnerable. Anything can happen at any time. With that comes intrusive thoughts, playing out the worst-case scenario when they step out of the house. One can only imagine the state of their mental health.
What upsets me even further is when I see Black men being anti-black. All over social media, I can see Black men, young and old, hating on Black women. I would see Tik-Tok videos of Black men saying how Black women are not their type and they prefer white girls. I mean can you believe this? You have Black women protesting and supporting the life of a Black men while also taking in trauma, and they have the audacity to throw shade?
Solomon Hillfleet made an outstanding comment in his article "Do Black Men Hate Black Women" that says “Black men love black women. They just aren’t as loud as the black men who hate black women.”
The ignorance dumbfounds me and will continue to frustrate me on an everyday basis. There are videos on videos over the praise of Black men but does not compare to the level of hype our Black Queens should experience. For every video of praise for Black women, there is one followed by expressing how better they would be if they were lighter. How can Black women ever feel safe and confident when the people in their community express hate? I cannot even begin to understand.
Now that I got that off of my chest...
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Submitted by Samantha, Love YU Collective